"You're just SO IN your feminine power" she told me with wide, wet eyes and a look of awe.
Awe because she wants this too.
Wet eyes because she's been accused by the world of being too masculine, causing her to feel like she's not a good enough woman. Not soft enough.
Not a good enough wife or mother. And certainly not good at lovingly supporting other women, something she wanted desperately to do in this women's group. Because she cares so much.
Looking into her eyes, I saw myself just 7 short-long years ago. I too was accused of being too masculine.
I too would get awkward when a woman around me needed comfort. I too I didn't think my touch would be quite right, my words coming out forced because of my discomfort.
I grew up a tomboy. Was an 8-sport athlete. I've always had outward confidence and a direct way of communicating. (Since when is that a masculine trait?)
I've known what I wanted and moved toward it. I've been called "strong" more times than I can count. And thus, I was often told I was intimidating or more masculine.
My heart has always been HUGE...but I never used to let it lead. Nor would I show my vulnerability.
That was the difference between what came out as masculine vs feminine. For me at least.
The more I've learned to cultivate, listen to, and use the incredible power of my heart and aaaalll my feels, the more I've developed in my feminine power.
And my life has completely transformed because of it. Way more pleasure. Way less effort. The choices I make are more aligned and successful.
There are as many roads to feminine power as there are women. And God, I'm passionate about supporting as many of you as possible to find and walk yours.
Know why? Because every single one of you came here to this life with a gift the world needs.
And without walking your road---not someone else's---and without fully owning your unique flavor of feminine power, the rest of us don't get to benefit from the gifts you're here to bring.
And that’s not the vision of the world I want. So please, hear this:
You do not need to add anything to you. You don’t need to subtract anything. You don’t need to try harder, be better, or do that thing you "know you should." No.
You don’t need to become your own project. Or someone else’s. You don’t need to stop this, start that, or claim "never again."
As Mary Oliver says, “You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees for a thousand years in the desert, repenting.”
What I’m saying here is that you don’t need to be directed by your dictator mind, who tends to make plans and turn things into spreadsheets. That path will never lead you to your feminine power.
The next line of that Mary Oliver poem is this: “You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves.”
Yes. I couldn’t say it any better myself.
Let’s go. We can hold hands on the way.
I’d love to hear from you. Can you relate? What’s your journey with femininity or masculinity looked like? What’s been painful or beautiful? What are you stepping into now? Leave a comment for me below.
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With all my love,