The Differences Between Healthy Conflict + Emotional Abuse

He was yelling AT her. Not a skillful show of anger, but a litany of blame and complaints about her. About how she's getting it wrong. Not letting her respond or speak. Forcing her to listen to him yell at her. 

Since it was a public place, I was overhearing this whole thing and it made my skin crawl and my heart hurt. I've been there. And it made me realize I needed to write this piece.

Let me be really clear here about what's abusive versus what's actually healthy conflict.

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Evaluating Whether it Works, The Courage to Love, + The Perfect Ideal

Evaluating Whether it Works, The Courage to Love, + The Perfect Ideal

As a culture, we've invested SO much into The Perfect Ideal that I often hear/see people making lists of their non-negotiables in relationships.

They've gotta be as spiritual as you are (of course). They've gotta work out. Have a meditation practice. Eat organic. Go to therapy. Communicate well. Be financially secure. Weigh no more than a certain standard.

You must be this tall to ride this ride.

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Early Warning Signs You're Losing Yourself in the Relationship

"Do I really need that much emotional connection?" she asked herself after her new boyfriend told her he just wasn't into sharing his feelings that much.

"We're just really different and that makes it interesting." she told herself when she realized they had nothing in common.

Maybe I am being unreasonable." she thought after he balked at her setting a boundary.

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In Full Reverence of YES

In Full Reverence of YES

Every single time you say yes to something...

To date a certain person. To commit to an intention for your year. To put your energy toward a project. To agree to do a favor. To do the work you do. To invest your funds in whatever it is.

Every single time you say yes to one thing, you say no to many others.

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Let's Get Something Straight About Authenticity (an unexpected recipe)

Let's Get Something Straight About Authenticity (an unexpected recipe)

You know being authentic feels good. You know you want to feel fully yourself and fully expressed. Great. Because the world needs more of that.

Only, we need to get clear about what it means to be whole, to be authentic, to be fully expressed.

Leading with the young part of yourself doesn't equal authenticity.

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Ode to Discipline. The Spiritual Practice of Creating Change.

Ode to Discipline. The Spiritual Practice of Creating Change.

Welcome! We made it! 2017 is finally here.

Let us step into it with our eyes open, yes? With all the consciousness we can muster, saying, "This is myyear."

Because my dear, it is.

Let me remind you that you are immensely powerful and that you can create deep nourishment, fulfillment, magic, connection, and abundance this year. And sure, on one level I'm talking about spiritual manifestation but my main point is this:

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The Very Best Holiday + End-of-Year Blessings. From Me to You.

The Very Best Holiday + End-of-Year Blessings. From Me to You.

May you be gentle with yourself this season.

May you resist and release the have-to's and shoulds about who to invite, what to wear, or how much to spend that compromise your true desires and authenticity.

May you snuggle closer to yourself with acceptance and understanding of your particular neuroses rather than move further away with shame and brittle judgement.

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