The Differences Between Healthy Conflict + Emotional Abuse

He was yelling AT her. Not a skillful show of anger, but a litany of blame and complaints about her. About how she's getting it wrong. Not letting her respond or speak. Forcing her to listen to him yell at her. 

Since it was a public place, I was overhearing this whole thing and it made my skin crawl and my heart hurt. I've been there. And it made me realize I needed to write this piece.

Let me be really clear here about what's abusive versus what's actually healthy conflict.

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Early Warning Signs You're Losing Yourself in the Relationship

"Do I really need that much emotional connection?" she asked herself after her new boyfriend told her he just wasn't into sharing his feelings that much.

"We're just really different and that makes it interesting." she told herself when she realized they had nothing in common.

Maybe I am being unreasonable." she thought after he balked at her setting a boundary.

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How to Manage Your Fear of Intimacy

How to Manage Your Fear of Intimacy

Avoiding intimacy. It's what you do (usually unconsciously) when getting close to someone feels threatening, whether you're aware of those feelings or not.

If you're anything like most of us, you have a sweet spot of tolerance---a place internally when connection feels enlivening and nourishing---and also a point at which the intimacy begins to feel threatening and another point where too much space begins to feel threatening.

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In Full Reverence of YES

In Full Reverence of YES

Every single time you say yes to something...

To date a certain person. To commit to an intention for your year. To put your energy toward a project. To agree to do a favor. To do the work you do. To invest your funds in whatever it is.

Every single time you say yes to one thing, you say no to many others.

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Ode to Discipline. The Spiritual Practice of Creating Change.

Ode to Discipline. The Spiritual Practice of Creating Change.

Welcome! We made it! 2017 is finally here.

Let us step into it with our eyes open, yes? With all the consciousness we can muster, saying, "This is myyear."

Because my dear, it is.

Let me remind you that you are immensely powerful and that you can create deep nourishment, fulfillment, magic, connection, and abundance this year. And sure, on one level I'm talking about spiritual manifestation but my main point is this:

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