Evaluating Whether it Works, The Courage to Love, + The Perfect Ideal

Evaluating Whether it Works, The Courage to Love, + The Perfect Ideal

As a culture, we've invested SO much into The Perfect Ideal that I often hear/see people making lists of their non-negotiables in relationships.

They've gotta be as spiritual as you are (of course). They've gotta work out. Have a meditation practice. Eat organic. Go to therapy. Communicate well. Be financially secure. Weigh no more than a certain standard.

You must be this tall to ride this ride.

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Early Warning Signs You're Losing Yourself in the Relationship

"Do I really need that much emotional connection?" she asked herself after her new boyfriend told her he just wasn't into sharing his feelings that much.

"We're just really different and that makes it interesting." she told herself when she realized they had nothing in common.

Maybe I am being unreasonable." she thought after he balked at her setting a boundary.

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How to Embrace Taking Space Apart

You know how when you travel and get away from home, it's like a breath of fresh air? New insights come in, you experience unique openings, see things you didn't see before, and it just generally refreshes your creativity? Ah, e x p a n s i o n....

Or how when you've been cooped up in the house all day, and you finally get out and your breath deepens, and it was just so good to get out of the house and experience a change of scenery?

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To the Women Who're Not Enough

Picture the feeling of not enoughness like a veil over your life. A perspective. A state. Like once you're inside it, you literally can't see anything other than what's lacking.

Not enoughness will tell you you need more money, better clothes, more patience. It'll tell you you need to be a better communicator, a better manager, more selfless, and more skillful.

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