The Differences Between Healthy Conflict + Emotional Abuse

He was yelling AT her. Not a skillful show of anger, but a litany of blame and complaints about her. About how she's getting it wrong. Not letting her respond or speak. Forcing her to listen to him yell at her. 

Since it was a public place, I was overhearing this whole thing and it made my skin crawl and my heart hurt. I've been there. And it made me realize I needed to write this piece.

Let me be really clear here about what's abusive versus what's actually healthy conflict.

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How to Manage Your Fear of Intimacy

How to Manage Your Fear of Intimacy

Avoiding intimacy. It's what you do (usually unconsciously) when getting close to someone feels threatening, whether you're aware of those feelings or not.

If you're anything like most of us, you have a sweet spot of tolerance---a place internally when connection feels enlivening and nourishing---and also a point at which the intimacy begins to feel threatening and another point where too much space begins to feel threatening.

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Let's Get Something Straight About Authenticity (an unexpected recipe)

Let's Get Something Straight About Authenticity (an unexpected recipe)

You know being authentic feels good. You know you want to feel fully yourself and fully expressed. Great. Because the world needs more of that.

Only, we need to get clear about what it means to be whole, to be authentic, to be fully expressed.

Leading with the young part of yourself doesn't equal authenticity.

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Ode to Discipline. The Spiritual Practice of Creating Change.

Ode to Discipline. The Spiritual Practice of Creating Change.

Welcome! We made it! 2017 is finally here.

Let us step into it with our eyes open, yes? With all the consciousness we can muster, saying, "This is myyear."

Because my dear, it is.

Let me remind you that you are immensely powerful and that you can create deep nourishment, fulfillment, magic, connection, and abundance this year. And sure, on one level I'm talking about spiritual manifestation but my main point is this:

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You Will Confront Your Inner Darkness

You Will Confront Your Inner Darkness

Here in the Northern Hemisphere, it's the darkest time of year. Both inwardly and outwardly.

In this time before the light returns, we see the darkest places in ourselves. We see what hides out in the corners and only comes out when the nights are long. 

Right now, so many are experiencing depression, deep insecurities, loneliness, apathy, anxiety, lethargy, and especially issues around addiction or numbing behaviors. Because now, as we experience our dark places, we also fall into our most shadowy ways of coping.

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16 Things You Already Know About Love, But Need to Be Reminded of Everyday

16 Things You Already Know About Love, But Need to Be Reminded of Everyday

Rumi, the 13th-Century Persian poet and Sufi mystic said,

"Your task is not to seek for love but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."

We're a culture that's damn confused about love. Partially because actually choosing love is a rigorous spiritual discipline. If it were simple, it wouldn't hold the transformative power that deep, spiritual practice promises.

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