Recently I co-led an event called Healing the Gender Divide with 4 of my colleagues and dear friends. Over 60 people showed up for a conversation between the genders devoted not to how we can get along better, but to sharing and listening to the honest truths about what's between us. Men and women both shared hurt, shame, anger, fear, grief, insecurity, love, turn on, appreciation, and awe. Both sides got messy and were willing to express truth and be heard. We can't move forward in the rift between the genders until we're willing to be honest about the places we're holding something against men or women. Brave souls shared things they hadn't before with the opposite gender. We said the things we're not "supposed to" say. And in part for this reason, this event was a great success and people were asking for more.
But what's just as exciting to me is that our leadership team debriefed together after the event until 2am, walking our talk by exploring our relationships with each other. We unpacked old painful experiences together, told the truth about how we feel in our friendships and as co-leads, shared hard truths, and owned our withheld projections. We also celebrated each other. I left feeling more loved, connected, proud, inspired, and alive than I've felt in a long time. And I want that for you too!
Which inspires me to invite you to talk about it, whatever it is, with the people that matter to you. Have the hard conversations with those you want to feel closer to. Unpack it. Tell the truth. Ask questions. Own what's yours. Let yourself be heard. Listen well. Be wiling to feel through the rough spots to get to the gems. It's worth it. And leave a comment here to share your experiences with me!